Question

After working a 12-hour day, Cary told Ted she was tired when they got into bed. Ted assumed Cary was rejecting him. This is an example of

Answer 1

This is an example of bypassing.
Ted is bypassing, or rather choosing (consciously or unconsciously) to ignore the fact that his partner worker for 12 hours that day, and he believes that she just doesn't want to spend time with him because she doesn't want to, when in fact she is truly very tired.